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Posted 04-14-2015 at 11:25 PM by sarah c.
Updated 04-14-2015 at 11:27 PM by sarah c. (it looked bad)

Natasha Tracy's post
I thought this was relevant in a forum like this as what we eat can directly affect any type of illness and if we are on medication, how that medication affects our body.)
I found Tracyís post to be brilliantly written. I am not Bipolar but this is applicable to any mentally ill person. Loneliness and lack of understanding appears to be a common problem regardless of the diagnosis. Iím not lacking intelligence, or have too little to do, nor do I just "think too much about itĒ. Iíve done my very best, and succeeded in many ways. But many, have no idea how or why itís so lonely. When your life is stolen from you before it even begins, there comes a time in that life when all the years of work and struggle strip whatever is left of your soul and you find yourself exhausted in a way that you cannot describe. Personally? I created and re-created a life for myself so many times that Iíve lost count. And the people who say ďyou just arenít positive enoughĒ, have no idea how much restraint it takes not to scream upon hearing that, because I've lived on positive thought, action, & hope for years. That is what kept me going.
But honestly? Now, Iím a fraud. I keep busy to avoid being labelled lazy. I maintain humour to keep from being accused of wanting sympathy or being told Iím not trying hard enough. I donít post photos because I was often told ďBut you're pretty. How could you be mentally ill?Ē What one has to do with the other or what looks have to do with anything on the inside is beyond me. Yet still, even with all the times the physical and/or psychological pain was so intense, I was sure I wanted to die-Somewhere, deep inside, that hope, although small now, still pushes. But Iím getting tired. So maybe, it will take mercy on me finally, and say: ďyouíve done enough to deserve even a few seconds of happiness

Stop Minimizing Mental Illness: Worst Things to Say
(Natasha Tracy)

I feel, sometimes, that I am at war with the mentally-well world. This isnít to say that many of them arenít lovely or that I have a desire to harm anyone, but I do feel embroiled. And itís mostly because the well population just doesnít understand what it is to be unwell. They demonstrate this heartily by repeatedly saying the worst things possible to a person with a mental illness.

Worst Things to Say to a Person With a Mental Illness

Here are some of my favorite worst things to say to a depressed person or really anyone with a mental illness.
1.Snap out of it
2.There are a lot of people worse off than you
3.You have so many things to be thankful for, how can you be depressed?
4.Youíd feel better if you got off all those pills
5.What doesnít kill us makes us stronger
6.Go out and have some fun
7.I know how you feel
8.So youíre depressed, arenít you always?
9.This too shall pass
10.We all have our crosses to bear
11.And as a bonus, my personal favorite: We create our own reality.

Ugh. (Iím not the only one thinking about this, check out the worst things to say to anxious people.)

Why These are Stupid Things to Say

Any of those statements shows that you have no idea what youíre talking about. You fundamentally do not understand the concept of a mental illness if you think any one of these are appropriate. I suggest trying it with other physical health problems and see how you feel:

Hey, diabetic, snap out of it.
Hey, epileptic, I know how you feel.
Hey, paraplegic, so you canít use your legs, isnít that always the case?
Hey, person with multiple sclerosis, we create our own reality.

You get the idea. No one would think that is reasonable, and itís no more reasonable just because you canít see the illness because itís in my brain.

These Are Hurtful Things to Say

And perhaps worse than showing ignorance, these things even inflict pain on the person youíre trying to ďhelpĒ. You are saying that:
1.They could choose not to be sick if they really wanted
2.Their illness is not serious
3.They have no ďreasonĒ to be ill
4.Their treatment is wrong
5.Theyíll be better off from it
6.They would be fine if they would just ďgo outĒ
7.Their illness is minimal
8.Their pain doesnít matter
9.They should just wait for the pain to end
10.Their illness is just like anyone elseís problem
11.They choose to be sick

Again, I dare you to tell a person with any other illness any of those things.

And lest we forget, the mentally ill person in front of you is already probably feeling very bad about themselves, and you have chosen to go and make it worse.

Letís Not Forget, People Die From Mental Illness

The idea that mental illness is serious isnít something that I made up, it is a fact. Estimates are 1 in 5 people with bipolar disorder commit suicide and 1 in 2 people (yes, thatís half) attempt it. And, of course, there are hospitalizations, work absences, destroyed families, having to go on disability, and so on. This is serious stuff people. It is not a runny nose.

Why Do People with Mental Illness Have to Justify Themselves?

Why is it that just because I see a psychiatrist and you see a neurologist your disease is real and mine is not? Why is it you assume I can will my disease away while you canít? Why is it that you can expect me to bring you chicken soup when you get the flu but when I get sick I canít even expect that youíll stick around?

I do understand that people donít know they are being hurtful. People are trying to help. I get it. But hereís the thing, my illness is just as real as anyone elseís. Please stop forcing me to convince you

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