Dirk's son.

[sleepy dave]

Has Dirk ever said much about his first born son? I don't really know the story of that but I just wondered if he has mentioned him or has a relationship with him and what he thought about it all?

[Tracy]

Has Dirk ever said much about his first born son? I don't really know the story of that but I just wondered if he has mentioned him or has a relationship with him and what he thought about it all?

Dirk has spoken publicly about his first son, so I'm not repeating anything here that Dirk himself hasn't already stated.

The long and short of it is his first son's name is John. He is from a serious relationship Dirk had in college. He was given up for adoption by the Mother who did not tell Dirk she was pregnant. Dirk and the mother parted ways and John resurfaced looking for his birth parents about 10 years ago. He found Dirk, who did not know John existed via the birth Mother. They do in fact have a relationship. In fact, John accompanied Dirk on his first fan cruise with Dirk's two other boys from his marriage to actress Toni Hudson ( George and Roland ).

[sleepy dave]

Thanks for that info, I appreciate it. :)

[Zilfstar]

I can only try to imagine how that news must have felt to Dirk, him being so into the father role. (I know MANY man who can learn something from Dirk about this!) Especially after I have read his second book. His remarks about his first encounter with fatherhood (that did not happen. Although I am curious ofcourse if that maybe WAS the birth mother of John? But as I recall that was not a college sweetheart) and all his words about his (then) oldest son being born.

I can understand there are reasons when some one will put their baby up for adoption. I just think it is so mean not to inform the father (unless ofcourse it is a serial killer or what ever. I can not imagine someone EVER thinking that way about Dirk). Ofcourse we will never know what happened. And we don't HAVE to know! That is private. So, do not get me wrong: this is NOT an appeal on Dirk to give any more insight in that story. But I am only human, so my curiousity is awake. Forgive me.

I really feel for Dirk. And I think it is very nice he has met his oldest offspring and even have a relationship with him. That is just good. Every child on Earth has the right to know who his or her parents are.

[dbukfan]

To my honest opinion, I think Dirk's still far too young to take on fatherhood role at that time in his college years anyway...and also he's still much traumatised from the loss of his father few years earlier!!...I also beleive that he'd opened up about his true feelin' to all of his few girl friends then....But the main imprtant thing is, Both his long -lost-unknown son, John and Dirk have def. made up their loss time...and...I strongly beleive, Dirk's continued to fulfil his fatherhood duty seriously til these days!!..I'm kanda person who never dwells on in the past...what's done/happened...is done :!: ..Nothing can change that :?: :!: ...and it's much more important how we deal with it later on....to correct it :!:..and Dirk's done just that :D

That's what I call...All ends well @ the end...Happy Ever After :D :!: ..Bless you, Dirk :!:

I hope to see more of his fanfastic writings in 2008 :?: ...More Please, Dirk :?: :!: :idea:


Take care


Su...x

[deebeelicious]

I got the impression that John had had a good family life, and I guess he still regards his adopted parents as 'Mom & Dad', and that it was just curiosity that made hime look?

Perhaps this is too nosey a question too! :oops: But I wonder if John is married or in a stable relationship himself - could Dirk be a grandfather yet! :shock: :P Dirk loves being a parent so much, I'm sure (from all the grandparents I've seen), he'll love being a grandparent even more (... when the time comes! :oops: ). I swear I thought my Mum had been snatched by aliens and replaced when her first grandkid was born! :shock: 'OK, who are you, and what have you done with my mum?' I said to her! :P :oops: She has a fridge magnet that says 'If I knew grandchildren would be so great, I would have had them first!' :P :roll:

:wink:

[ani]

Actually DB, you can read abou John and why he looked up his parent, which kinda seems to amount to.

Parade mamagzine did a write up about adopted children looking up their bio-parents, and one of the people they published was John Talbert. It's a really nice little interview, and he seems like a real down to Earth stable kinda guy.
http://www.parade.com/features/070501-youramerica-adoption2.html

He also looks a *heck* of a lot like his dad 0.o
Also, as a mentioned when I posted this on DTD, I really like the way the article does *not* mention Dirk by name, but just alludea to him via the shows Dirk was on. It really kept the focus on John and his story and made it clear that the point of the article was not "HEY! I ahve a celebrity father!"

So yeah anyway, he says finding his bio-dad wasn't a real driving force and I think that can only speak to how wonderful his parents must have been for him.

[Tracy]

To answer your question DBL...John is married.

Ani..thanks for the link to John's story. I had forgotten it was out there and it says it much better from his point of view. I am truly glad that he and Dirk have become great friends. Sounds like John's adoptive parents are wonderful folks. :)

[deebeelicious]

To answer your question DBL...John is married.

Ani..thanks for the link to John's story. I had forgotten it was out there and it says it much better from his point of view. I am truly glad that he and Dirk have become great friends. Sounds like John's adoptive parents are wonderful folks. :)

Thanks Tracy! 8)

[sara]

Thank you Tracy and all for giving me the chance to know about this fact.

Life can be very strange.. we can struggle to take everything under control, but such a great event can skip, be hidden, develop and then come to the light. Dealing with life and its "surprises" makes us become those who we are.
And Dirk is an incredible person, and an incredible father.

[Zilfstar]

Hmmmm, Bit off topic but still....

When I receive compliments I often start to blush :oops:

Makes me wonder (IF he ever reads the postings: Tracy, do you know?) when Dirk will read comments like this how he must feel about it. :roll:

I mean to HIM he is just an ordinary Montana guy, putting on a pair of pants in the morning one leg at the time. He just happens to be good at his job (playing roles and writing books) and he is extraordinary in maintaining just an ordinary Montana guy despite his world wide fame. (When you've met him you know what I mean.)

He is "just a dad" (hell of a job, equal to being "just a mom". Hardest job on Earth, being a parent. I know. I am one!), a "male soccer Mom" and yet still a couple of hundred (watch the registered members list) fans are still blown away by him. 8)

Because he IS still and ordinary Montana guy. :wink:

So Dirk: how red do you get, reading our posts? :lol:

[Tracy]

Wanda,

To answer your question. I can assure all that Dirk is very appreciative of all the positive energy that his fans bring his way through their postings and visits to conventions etc. He truly is humbled by it. And you are right. He is such a down to earth man that sometimes he does still find the attention a bit overwhelming. These days, as we all know, he's "semi" retired, leading a very normal life.

Dirk would be the first one to tell you, me, everyone just to be themselves and have fun with it. If it's not fun, it's not worth doing. I'm very lucky that Dirk was so open to let me do this website with him so many years ago and keep it going all this time. It wouldn't be the same without his direct input, suggestions, etc.

So nobody worry about thinking their saying something inappropriate or offending. The people that post here have always been kind and generous and respectful here, to Dirk and each other, and I am PROUD to be a part of it :)

[NicoleDutch]

Thanks Tracy :wink:

Proud to be a part of this "family" too!

[Zilfstar]

Thanks for that wonderfull insight. Yes I know he is humbled by all the attention. I could tell both times on the Star Cons here in the Netherlands he liked al the attention and disliked it al the same time. It is tiring I think to be so much in the spotlight. I mean, last year on the Dutch Star Con: there were actors present from other movies (Star Wars the new episodes). They just had no work at all: everybody stood in line for Dirk and Dwight. I saw one of the actrices actually get up, stand right beside me to take a picture of the line waiting for Dirk. There were no fans going to her table or the one next to her! And she was a leading lady in the new Star Wars movie.

I desided Dirk had enough work to do signing all those mug shots of him so I did not get in line. (I had already had my picture taken with him, so...) I really felt sorry for him when I noticed he skipped lunch. Own choice or forced by the organisation or maybe feeling pressed to do it because of the crowd of fans or maybe even because the hotel did not serve a Macrobiotic lunch I don't know. (All I know is next time I will bring an instant Miso to the con if he is there!)

Well I think it is wonderfull how he is there for the boys now. All three of them if I interpretate it correctly. And for his wanting all of us to have FUN in what we do? Well, I could tell him: I HAVE FUN! Being a stay-at-home mom, with a boy of 6 and a girl of 3, having 2 cats, a dog, and a horse and pony. (Last two are NOT my own. We take care of them because the owner has not that much time being a young Mom herself. So me and my boy go cuddling and riding. It ahs a special name in Dutch. If I translate that directly it would be: take care pony. We do not lease or hire it (we do not have to pay to groom it).

Well got to go, get my boy out of school...

[DonnaRedRockMom]

I desided Dirk had enough work to do signing all those mug shots of him so I did not get in line. (I had already had my picture taken with him, so...) I really felt sorry for him when I noticed he skipped lunch. Own choice or forced by the organisation or maybe feeling pressed to do it because of the crowd of fans or maybe even because the hotel did not serve a Macrobiotic lunch I don't know. (All I know is next time I will bring an instant Miso to the con if he is there!)



Trust me that is a great idea. My husband & I shared instant Miso with him at a Con and he loved it.....take care and I too agree to putting family first...that is mostly what the 3 of us talked about....family, priorities and no regrets.....add in lunch and it was a great day

take care,
Donna

[Zilfstar]

Hi Donna,

Maybe even try to make a flip-over macrobiotic cake. I have a recipe!!!! But well then he first has to come to the Netherlands. So maybe this will be a possitive adition to the whole thing??? Dirk: I promiss I am a good cook!