Sensi Therapy and a diet for 5 weeks....

[Zilfstar]

I just want to write the whole thing down and where to find a better place then here. OKAY it is not totally MB, but still...
I do not post it into a blog (yet) because I want to know if anyone else here has the same experience and maybe to find some support.

Now I am Dutch, so maybe some things are not accurate written down. But I am trying to find the best English possible.

I am a Highly Sensitive Person. And I have been throug some stuff in my life. I am overweight and I have skinproblems (acne like). Last week somebody I have met on my sons school has "read" me. She is a Sensi therapist. With a Biosensor she has tapped into that little part of me "that knows it all". With (among other treatments) pulsing and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) she has unleased the garbidge of emotions that was hanging about in my body. With Stone Therapy etc she filled up the spaces left behind by the removed garbidge with positive energy. Hmpffff 2 hours later we were ready with this all. I was tired and at the same time relieved.

Then she started to read me about food intolerance. And she gave me a diet to follow for 5 weeks to get my body in harmony again. So as of today I am on a Hypoglicemic diet (Hope I did that right) with an additional "NO"-list for the first 3 weeks. So for the first 3 weeks I have to remove surten food from that HG diet.

What it means? Well I am on a diet of fresh fruits and vegetables. But I am not allowed to eat bananas for example. Also lot of oils are no good. I am also allowed fresh fish like salmon and tuna, but oh no!!! My Personal No List excludes the Tuna...

The 3 weeks to come I am eating vegetables (but all kind of beans are forbidden for me! also soja! So no MB diet for me!), fruits, potatoes (boiled only!), very young cheese (like Cottage Cheese), olive oil, water, thee, coconut milk, salmon, shrimps and vegitarian meat-replacements (also NOT the kind made of soja-beans).

NO bread, pasta, rice (!), beans (!), meat, milk, eggs...

Does anyone has any experience with this? Recipes or suggestions are welcome.

For lunch I made a nice Nituke from carrot, onion and apple. For breakfast I ate dried plums and cucumber with cottage cheese. Tonight I am making spaghetti for my kids. So I will make a sauce of vegies I am allowed (tomato, onion, etc) they are getting pasta and I will be eating it with potatoes...

[deebeelicious]

Zilfstar - this is a most interesting post you have written. So you've just started it, right? Sorry, I've not had experience of 'biosensor', EFT or stone therapy. I think you should make a real effort though to try this diet. It is only for 3 weeks, not the rest of your life. Like Alcoholics Anonymous, take it one day at a time?

The way I think of my digestive tract is like it is the outside of my body. It has endothelial tissue just like the skin. Once the skin is broken, for example grazed, it takes a couple of weeks for it to heal over, except if it is constantly getting knocked, it might never heal. The digestive tract (I think) is like that, once it has become irritated (for example by food it is intolerant to, which can make the microorganism flora become unbalanced and which thus irritates the bowels), it takes a couple of weeks to heal (that is if one stops eating the food that causes the intolerance. If one keeps eating that food, the body remains in a state of unhealthyness).

That's why the therapist has asked you to do this diet for 3 weeks. This will be enough time to give your tract a rest, heal and for you to experience what it is like to have a 'healthy' tract. I'm sure your acne will improve over this time too (mine went away after a few weeks of MB and I've only had the occasional small spot (after indulging on a bit too much chocolate!)).

If after 3 weeks you don't 'feel' any different, then you know that none of the foods you've come off is 'bad' for you and you can eat them all to your hearts content. Or, you might really enjoy how your body feels, and you'll want to keep that feeling. If you cheat, you'll never know for sure and it might bother you, wondering if you are intolerant or not?

Intolerance isn't like 'allergy'. Many people can 'tolerate' a small amount of various foods. Some foods though, if taken too much, cause body upset. It is like taking medicine, it is the dose (amount) that is important!

Good luck with it all. I really look forward to hearing how it goes.

Best wishes, and also to your Son and his horse! ;)

[ostarella]

It sounds interesting, but I do admit to some degree of skepticism about "readings" and other "therapies". I'm wondering, why not just go MB? It shows you how to do all of that yourself - discover the foods that are good for *your* body, mind and spirit and shows you how to balance not only your diet but all aspects of your life. And you do it yourself. No hoping that someone else will somehow know your body better than you do. I wish you luck with this, of course, but MB has worked for so many already... :confused:

[Zilfstar]

Deebeelicious: Thanks for your words! The very strict diet I have to follow 3 weeks and then for 2 weeks a somewhat different diet, but still very restrained. And then I can eat what I want again. But I have a new appointment in 6 weeks from now. And yes, it is about healing. Healing my body inside and out but also to restore the disharmony of my psyche. Because of all the emotionel garbidge I took with me sooo long. She has helped me shake it lose (for real with shaking of my body and tapping on different presure points). A lot of intollerences of food os caused by stress because of emotional garbidge. Well that is what she says.

Ostarella: I totally do understand your scepticism! Still am myself a bit. She is a mother of a boy in my sons class. She is learning to become a Sensi Therapist and felt the first day we met I was High Senstive. And my son as well. It was a very strange experience. So she asked me if I was open for her to try out her techniques. OK, I will go for it. I realy thought it would not work. But somehow the tapping on those pressure points really get the bad emotions going. I did not believe in this, but allowed myself the experience.

So now she has "read" me. The biosensor is like a pendle. It responds apparently to my inner energy that knows everything. So (if you want to accept this whole matter for a moment) my body told her (by movement YES or NO of the biosensor) what is healthy for me right now. And like Deebeelicious says: It is not a diet for life. But for 5 weeks and then we will see what happens. I now am going ot give it 5 weeks and hopefully my acne clears up. And my weight as well.

She says it is highly likely that in 6 weeks (when I return to her for another session) all kinds of food which are now forbidden then are allowed again.

So I am still somewhat sceptical, but on the other hand: trying this 5 weeks, why not?

Funny is this however/ How to explain this experience:
somewhere in the midst of it all after a rather emotional EFT session I was dead tired. Really I wanted to leave and sleep!!! All the stress etc had build up in my shoulders and back. This I had not mentioned to her, but I really suffered severe pains in shoulders and back 2/ 3 weeks before going ot her. And she felt that with a surten technique: my back and shoulders were solid, not relaxed at all. After that EFT stuff my shoulder were sore!! Like I had been on a horse the day before that for a whole hour just wanted to rip the reins (correct me if I am wrong) out of your hands. The kind of muscle pain you will suffer for two whole days. Really I thought: This is going to last at least 48 hours before it will clear up. I told her I had this pain and she gave me the stone treatment: I had to pick out the stones I liked out of a dozen or so. Then she showed me them one by one and I had to say the first location on my body I came up with. So> Stone> I said belly> she placed it there. Then after al the stones where on my body the biosensor indicated I should remain there for 6 minutes. I had no idea what purpose this had. After six minutes she came back, took the stones away, I sat up straight and really, strange: the muscle pains were totally gone. I felt refreshed, relaxed. So asked her what the stones were meant for and she said: To place positive energy in the voights left by taking away the negavtive garbidge. So that moment I became a little bit less sceptical...

And you know ostarella, going MB is not that easy either. Not with a very sceptical hubby and 2 kids. This I have asked him to support me with, promissing I will only change MY diet and not my kids and his. So I am cooking different stuff for me now.

And actually, if for this moment you will accept it as fact that the biosensor IS in contact with my inner self and expressing the answers of my inner self, my body has told me what to do now, what is healthy for me for the uncomming 5 weeks. I watched carefully, but her hand does not move. The sensor is a stick with a very thin threat of iron sticking out. On the end there is a ring of a surten metal. This ring makes contact with my energy. She hold her hand still and askes my body the question. "Do I have contact with (my name)" : Are you allowing me to read you" "Is (food or treatment) allright for you"

I admit it is a bit weird and way out there. And the real sceptical people will say she manipulates the sensor. But still: surten stuff she could not know became clear by the true nature of the answers my 'body'/'inner self' gave her.

I will keep you posted.
Today I have managed to keep myself to the diet. Eating cucumber, cottage cheese, plums, apple, potatoes and a sauce of tomatoes and onions. Which was allright to eat. Am feelling weak for sugar right now, because honestly: this is my first sugarfree, refined stuff free day in years!

I do see resamblences with MB. It is a kind of MB without the rice, beans and miso! :)) What is left are vegies and fruits with a topping of soft cheese...

[ostarella]

I watched carefully, but her hand does not move. The sensor is a stick with a very thin threat of iron sticking out. On the end there is a ring of a surten metal. This ring makes contact with my energy. She hold her hand still and askes my body the question. "Do I have contact with (my name)" : Are you allowing me to read you" "Is (food or treatment) allright for you"

I admit it is a bit weird and way out there. And the real sceptical people will say she manipulates the sensor. But still: surten stuff she could not know became clear by the true nature of the answers my 'body'/'inner self' gave her.

Yes - this is the type of thing that makes me skeptical, you see. We used to do this back when I was young - to see how many children and of what sex they would be. ;) I'm sorry - I don't want to sound like I'm making fun of any of it, but it just seems like "suggestion" is as much a part of the "cure" as anything. Again, my concern is really that people like this are doing for you what you could do for yourself - and perhaps charging you for it? And that if you would go with the "curing" MB diet for those five weeks, perhaps you would feel just as in harmony?

But there I am - the eternal cynic ;)

[shastastar]

Okay first of all it doesn't sound like the diet this person recommended will harm you in the next few weeks, and perhaps it is a good way to get you to make the leap into a more macrobiotic transition.

I understand your pain of kids and a husband. Read my "paradigm" blog. My husband does not eat macrobioticly. I have three kids that don't follow the diet strictly either. I make the food for myself while I make their food. With a little planning, macrobiotic food is not that hard to prepare. You can even go with instant miso soup, plain oatmeal etc.

I think in the long term, MB would be better for weight loss, health problems etc, but that is just my opinion and my personal experience with the diet. You might be surprised that after a while your kids will be okay eating plain oatmeal for breakfast, or rice with beans and veggies and tofu for dinner. Once your pallet adapts, to mainly less sugar, less meat and no cheese, it's not that difficult, if it is something you are really led to do.

Feel free to PM me, if you have questions about how I handle it all, I am more than open to that. It sounds like these 5 weeks are maybe a transition stage for you, and honestly if I were you I would not "pay" this person more money because I think that is what bothers me the most about these sorts of things. With macrobiotics in my experience, you get to a point where your body will tell you very clearly what you need and what to avoid. You don't need a bio sensor, an allergy test, a blood test or anything. You learn to figure it out on your own.

Anyway, good luck and take it easy

Peace Love Hope Faith and bancha

SS

[Tracy]

I'd like to add my comments to this, but fear it will turn into a rant.
So I won't.
I will ask a question though.

After the five weeks, then what?:confused:

I too have three kids, a husband, a full time job and the stress makes it difficult to maintain a healthy balance and way of eating. Especially since I work around food all day. Plenty of opportunities to "cheat", which I have not. That takes discipline and commitment to something I believe is greater than myself. The Universe and it's macrobiotic philosophies and principles. In all areas of my life. IF I didn't follow these principles, I would have cracked up by now. And probably weigh 500 pounds ;)

Ok I said I wasn't going to rant, which I'm doing ( :oops: ).
But....I will say this. Macrobiotics is not for everyone. But, if you don't try it out, how will you know? It's so basic. So primal. So getting to your center and cleaning house, both physically and spiritually, from the inside out. Hot rocks are great for a soothing day at the spa once in a while, but will not bring you long lasting balance and harmony.
And it's CHEAP! Rice and beans cost pennies compared to other "more natural treatments".
Ok, someone stop me.....:rolleyes:

[Zilfstar]

Thanks for all your concerns! It is one of the reasons why I decided to post it here and share with you. To keep me balanced that way :)

Well to get one concern out of the way: She is not charging me anything! I hear some people think "yet", but once she starts to ask me to pay I will stop. She asked me to try this also for her learning experience since she is taking classes now esp for the Highly Sensitive Persons. She has never mentioned anything like an hour-rating or anything like that. The only thing that would cost something is if you decide to purchase the "remedy" that would compliment your needs. These are fluids like Bach Flower Remedy if you know that? Homeopatic solutions based on flower-ointments etc to help you with various problems. But that is a free choice if you decide to take them.

To answer the question: After 5 weeks, then what? Well after those 5 weeks I am allowed to eat normal again (and avoid foods I decide I do not want to eat) So in a way you can try what becomes you and what not. So I will return to my miso lunches. And I have a new appointment then and she will read me again. And then we will probably see/ find out what foods to avoid for a new period of time. Again it is my own choice to keep my diet or not. And my own choice to stop with all of this.

For now like someone added: the diet is not something that would hurt me in anyway if you keep it for only 5 weeks. It is very much like MB: No bread, no sugar, no sweets, no refined things... And it has no miso, beans (for the first 3 weeks, then beans are allowed again) and rice. So I decided to go for it for those 5 weeks. After that? Well I will let her read me again. If again a very strict diet comes to light I will pass. If there will be a list of foods to avoid that is not as strict, so maybe just avoid meat, milkproducts, rafined things, sugar (MB...) I will go for it.

Like someone here said: it is a transitionstage for me right now. A way to reboot the fysical computer. To clear me of all negative garbidge and clutter. And after that I will find out what foods to avoid and what not. Either with help from this sensi therapist and if my inner feelings say: NO I will do it myself. Mayby I will go into MB mayby something like MB and maybe something else.

Right now I am kicking off my sugar adiction. I have tried before but never found the right discipline. I think I have found something to help me now but I will watch out! And have you to help me keep my balance in that. And actually I do not even crave for meat right now. I am feeling a bit :p!!! Am not really craving for sweets and sugar. I am not hungry and hungry at the same time. I think tonight or tomorrow my body will start to ask for sugar....

Like Osterella mentioned: the fact that she holds one end of the biosensor is the tricky part. How much is suggestion and how much is not. I can not answer to that. It still is the one factor that makes me wonder too and I am still sceptical about. One thing I know: I will never pay her for that, because of this one fact.

[asmay]

I don't know about sensi therapy, but I do know about Bach blossom remedies: they are excellent! Can definitely recommend them to you in this time of discharge (whether physical or psychological). ;)

To me it sounds like this is a learning experience for both of you, so that's a sort of win-win situation. :cool: After all, Wie niet waagt, die niet wint! Good for you!

[Zilfstar]

Hey Asmay! Well I will keep this in English for the others to read as well. Yes it is a win-win situation absolutely. I do use Bach already, the rescue remedy. Helped me yesterday at my appointment with the dentist!! The remedies this woman is using are even better she says. A kind of evolved Bach remedy.

Well this is my fifth day. I have to say it is not going easy all the way. Esp. when you are cooking for the kids or treating them with something sweet. But the need for sweet has subsided already for most part of the day.

Tomorrow going to a birthday (of our nephew (son of sister-in-law). Because we will be traveling past some relatives first my husband suggested to eat lunch somewhere... He means the MacD if you get it...:twisted: (Yes he is NOT into MB, healthy food or what ever...) And because the family where the birthday party is, are in the midst of a kitchen-make-over we will eat... french fries for dinner. Hmpfffff.

I already said I would take my own food and I will do that. But all of a sudden realised I had to take lunch as well. MacD does have salads but I can not risk the fact that all salads have ingredients I am not allowed...

OH! And in 3 weeks we have a family dinner my husband and his sister will prepare. So my dear sister-in-law began to annoy me yesterday on the phone. How I thought about that? Because she did not like it if I could not eat with them or not everything... Regardless of what diet you have: I think it is MY OWN choise and my own right and it is up to me how to addapt it (or not) in situations like a family dinner. And she (of all people) had her own diet 2 years ago when we had prepared a Christmas dinner. We did not know about her (crash) diet so were unpleasantly surprised by the sudden apareance of her own salads and things. Ofcourse it is alright if someone is on a diet, but I think it is kind to let them know you are on a diet. So that is why I told her yesterday I would take care of my own food tomorrow.

I do not mind when someone is on a diet and I know about it. And they bring their own food. My sister-in-law made very clear she actually did not accept my diet right now. I had the feeling she wanted me to say I would stop with my diet for this one event. Almost felt like she was saying (without saying out loud) How the h*ll could you decide to start this diet right now! Not very nice.

It is time for a guinea pig hugging session (we have two little darlings since sunday. They are about 4 months old, twin-sisters. And they still need to learn it is not scarry to be on your lap)

So talk to you all later!

[deebeelicious]

Ahhh guinea pigs - yes I'm sure stroking them will help you recover from your phone call. I can't imagine how difficult it must have been for Dirk in the 70s when he had to be strict on his diet when he was first recovering from ill health! :o People (doctors and loved ones) saying it was dangerous etc! :( So full sympathy for you dear about this.

Some people are strange. For example if they have 'issues' themselves, they will try to impose on you, eg if you are 'dieting' they might want you to 'fail' so they can feel better about themselves! :o I don't know if your sister-in-law (SIL) is such a person. Some people even push alcoholics to drink, and then they complain afterwards! I read a new internet abbreviation the other day - WUM (wind-up merchant), someone who does something just to 'push' another person's buttons! :o :(

Everytime I have something v sweet, my tastebuds explode and I feel a great urge for several days afterwards for more sweet things. Totally out of balance. :( So if you can do your best to avoid this for the next few weeks, well done! ;)

I suppose the only thing I can suggest is a deep breathe, ignore your SIL comments, PLAN well, with lots of your own foods for the weekend!

Good luck! :)

xx

[asmay]

SIL, what a great abbreviation! :)) Hadn't thought of that one yet!

And very true, Deebee! Some people seem to think they are the centre of the Universe and everyone else should revolve around them. :rolleyes:

Well Zilfstar, let your silly SIL stew in her own juice. My advice would be, don't go explaining or defending yourself, just say your on a temporary diet to rule out certain health problems. You see, the more you tell about the diet and/or the therapy, she will get the impression you're merely defending yourself and the more she will try to attack and control you. :mad: Don't give her (or anyone else for that matter) the chance. Keep the power to yourself!

In spite of all this, I hope you have a nice time!

[bibbi]

I enjoyed reading everyone's post. :)

[Zilfstar]

Hi All!! Well I survived the weekend. Took a Salad at the MacD and some fresh fruit. (Boy did the french fries smell tasty!!!) And I took my own food to my SIL (I have to laugh at that, because my OTHER SIL is called Sil....) and ate it with taste!

Actually no-one asked me anything about it or made any remarks. Don't know if that is good or bad because my whole family-in-law are the kind who are not interested in anyone else, esp if it is about subjects they don't find interesting. So I do not have anything really to talk about with my mother and father in law besides holidays and the kids (both of the subjects are always compaired to either their own holidays (which are alwys better) and the other 2 grandchildren (who are always better, quicker, easier to have around you etc) Sooo....:D and we're walking... (sorry, that is a quote from Stargate SG1)

But my troubles with the family-in-law is a whole other topic... Still I felt a lot more at ease, steady, self-assured. A whole lot more in balance. I could care less what everybody thought about me (and I ussualy am always concerned with: what do they think about me?? How does this look? Am I not to much?)

In the mean time I lost some weight and my skin looks al lot healthier already! Today saw the woman who "read" me a week ago and she asked how I was doing and gave some tips about food. So still sticking to my diet (Thanks someone for the reminder of how Dirk went to a kind of same experience when he decided to eat healthy! It helps to know there are more people who went through this. Does not have to be a celebraty ofcourse but Dirk is 'a save person' if you all know what I mean.)

Today was the start of my second week with the very strict diet. I am going for it!

[deebeelicious]

Big Hug to you, Zilfstar!
I was really pleased to read how things went in your first week! :)

Asmay, great advice. I'll try to do that myself too - don't explain too much, let others wonder! 8)

[asmay]

:D Thanks Deebee! What can I say other than 'been there, done that'?:oops:

Isn't any relationship in life somehow based on control issues between the parties? If they are in harmony, great! If they are not they can develop to real power struggles (i.e. in-laws, sibling rivalry, colleagues, neighbours, you name it). :rolleyes: The more you try to defend or justify yourself, the more the other party will attack; probably something in the line of attack being the best defence ...

Funny thing is that once you don't care anymore what anyone thinks of you, they tend to accept you for who you are and stop trying to convert you to their standards and values. Maybe because they think you're a nut job ...>:) but then again, who cares? :p I've never been bothered by what other people think of me, I love my freedom and I think I'm entitled to make my own mistakes. In other words, if I want to be a nut job that's my business, right?! :))

Nice Zilfstar! You just stuck to your diet, leaving no room for discussions and everyone accepted it. (Whether because of disinterest or whatever, you were off the hook!) Btw, sorry about your in-laws, they don't sound like a nice family (at least towards you). But already such positive results! You go girl!;)

[deebeelicious]

:D Thanks Deebee! What can I say other than 'been there, done that'?:oops:

Isn't any relationship in life somehow based on control issues between the parties? If they are in harmony, great! If they are not they can develop to real power struggles (i.e. in-laws, sibling rivalry, colleagues, neighbours, you name it). :rolleyes: The more you try to defend or justify yourself, the more the other party will attack; probably something in the line of attack being the best defence ...


Yup! That's why I found Transactional Analysis (psychological theory describing how people interact) really interesting, and books such as 'I'm OK, You're OK' or 'Games People Play'. Switching from Parent-Child to Adult-Adult conversations (still can't do that with my sister - still fighting like cats & dogs! :o :cry: :rolleyes: :)))

[Zilfstar]

:D Thanks Deebee! What can I say other than 'been there, done that'?:oops:

Isn't any relationship in life somehow based on control issues between the parties? If they are in harmony, great! If they are not they can develop to real power struggles (i.e. in-laws, sibling rivalry, colleagues, neighbours, you name it). :rolleyes: The more you try to defend or justify yourself, the more the other party will attack; probably something in the line of attack being the best defence ...

Funny thing is that once you don't care anymore what anyone thinks of you, they tend to accept you for who you are and stop trying to convert you to their standards and values. Maybe because they think you're a nut job ...>:) but then again, who cares? :p I've never been bothered by what other people think of me, I love my freedom and I think I'm entitled to make my own mistakes. In other words, if I want to be a nut job that's my business, right?! :))

Nice Zilfstar! You just stuck to your diet, leaving no room for discussions and everyone accepted it. (Whether because of disinterest or whatever, you were off the hook!) Btw, sorry about your in-laws, they don't sound like a nice family (at least towards you). But already such positive results! You go girl!;)


Thanks for your insight about that first aspect. Yes, I do try not to mind what others think, but with a history of always being bullied in school it is a leanring point for me. I surtenly am sticking to my diet and I am fine. Loosing weight slowly (so no crash-diet) and my skin is recovering. Accept for the giant pimple on my right cheeck :twisted: Well it is almost 'that time of the month' and usually I am just one big pimple area, esp around the mouth. So if it is contained to just one (OK giant :cry:) pimple...

About my in-laws. Actually they can be nice and they do love me and so on. They just don't show real interest in MY topics. They do not have any feelings for
* Animals (I do, am a paraveterinarian),
* Dogs and Cats (I do, we have 2 cats and 1 dog),
* Drama and everything about TV (I do, I also am a Dramatherapist and I love TV series as you might quess),
* Theatrical plays (I do, I write them myself and possibly even be on stage with one in 2010 or 2011)
* Horses (I do and my kids do, we have a shetland to take care off for 2 days a week)
* They always compair my kids to the other 2 grandchildre, Mine are 4 and 7, the other 2 8 and 11. My son has a fysical impairment/ CP and they never ask about it.

And so on. They just do not care it seems. Or they are at least not interested. When something is not their cup of tea, they do not want to hear about it, discus it or ask about it.

My sister in law is nice however and interested, but always knows better and the way she does it is the right way. And she is very... how do you cal it. She wants to do it all and all perfect (in her way) Her kids have to achieve (If you do a sport you might want to like it, but you have to be able to compete and win. ) She is competetive. Her son of 8 does gymnastics and already dreams about being on the Olypics and win Gold. Her daughter of 11 does Judo and competes and when she has lost you cvan tell... bet when she wins she still gets to hear what she did wrong.

My son swims and wants to get his diploma's so he can swim with his father at the "Rescue Brigade" (kind of Baywatch but not on the beach. They guard open water sports and festivals near water etc). He rides his pony without thinking about medals, prizes etc. My daughter dances just for the fun of it.

Get the difference? But my biggest beef with them: My son has a fysical impairment. We went through all kind of test with him. And I went with him always. That is what a mom does. MRI, blood tests, inspection of the vocal cords through his nose. We now finnaly know what is the matter and we can help him get the right care. We have surten abbilities here in the Netherlands like the school (a normal school, no special education) is able to get extra refunds so they can give him more care with gymnastics and writing.
Their daughter is not happy in school. Probably has a very high IQ. The school doctor highly recomended a IQ test, a very expensice test OK, but it would help them/ school to understand the girl and give the right kind of teaching. School refused (to expensive and we are able to help her. We already are giving her more things to learn. (She still is not happy)) Parents REFUSED! Her daughter was in the room with us (!) while she explained to me the fact that she did have the money (!) but according to my sister-in-law it was not nescesary to test her. She rather used the money for an extra (!) holiday. I just do not understand that.

Well big story (and I could go on). I guess I have to just let go and I will. Still am on my diet 11 days now. And not wanting any sugar yet.

[asmay]

What a shame! Some people just have no clue. :o A nice example of having to get your priorities right .... I would have thought a competitive mum like that would have seen the shiny prize of a highly intelligent daughter (she could have talked about that for years to come). But on the other hand, it could be scary to have a child who is going to 'outsmart' you in no time, by not paying any attention to it you can at least try to postpone the inevitable.

I'm sorry to hear about your son, but I don't think he could ask for a better mum! And a happy and (relatively) carefree childhood is the best basis for the rest of his life, or anyone's life for that matter.

About the disinterest of the in-laws: maybe they ignore it all because they just don't understand, they just do not know how to relate to it all. You know: struisvogelpolitiek - if you don't pay attention to it, it isn't there ... :rolleyes:

[Zilfstar]

Thanks Asmay for your comments. I think the last part is true. They don't understand it and never will. And do not have the notion of trying!

Well I am still slowly loosing weight. I am almost at the end of the first 3 weeks. I am fine and okay allthough sometimes it still is though to find the urge for sugar.

Oh and about the guinea pigs... Last night one of them gave birth to 3 little 3-coloured darlings and... I watched it happen. My son was already asleep and did not wake up when tried. My daughter... I did not even try. When she sleeps she sleeps. Sooooo cute!